G one are the days when a subscription to an online dating site came with a free, complimentary stigma.
According to the latest data from Match.com, almost half of singles in the U.S have attempted online dating and it’s safe to say most people won’t raise an eyebrow if they find out a duo met via an online dating service or an app. Earlier this year research commissioned by TSB exposed that one in seven fresh relationships in Britain had apps to thank.
The only problem is that with fresh services appearing almost every day, choosing which platform to use can feel like a gruelling search to find ‘the one’.
While apps like Tinder may be associated with junior audiences, there are slew of options for those in search of mature dating, our very own Telegraph Dating or Senior People Meet, for example.
With a view to helping you navigate this minefield, we asked award winning dating blogger Paul Thomas Bell what boys need to know.
The era of Tinder is coming to a close
",I credit Tinder with removing the stigma of online dating, but people are commencing to get a little bored of the swipe and are looking for an alternative. I’ve spoken with a lot of Tinder users and albeit you’ll find the occasional love story, generally the feedback is vastly negative.",
It’s worth doing your research
",Believe it or not there is such a thing as an online dating comparison site called Queek’d which is fantastic – think of it as the GoCompare of the dating world.
",Reminisce to take geographical location into account. It could be the greatest app in the world but if no one lives within 100 miles of you then there’s not truly much point.",
Cut to the pursue
",I’ve spoken to a lot of female app users and the feedback I hear is always the same – ‘everyone seems to just want a pen pal’. If you want to meet someone then just ask them out and make it happen.
",I think both studs and women make that mistake, too much talking and not enough face to face interaction. Online dating should only ever be the means of an introduction.",
Paul Thomas Bell’s round-up of the best dating apps for download
T he quick-let’s-go-on-a-date-right-this-second one
",I absolutely love this idea and it’s one that I hope indeed takes off. It’s all about dating ‘now’. No more pen pals, if you’ve got a few hours to kill let users know where and when you’re free and just make it happen.",
The one for boys who choose IRL to online
",This one truly struck a chord with me. I love Founder Blair Waller’s determination to get people online to get them offline. The app is taking Edinburgh by storm and it’s established ties to some of the the city’s top venues making dating more joy and that little bit safer as well.",
JigTalk
The personality-driven one
",This one is truly ordinary which I guess is what I love about it. Every conversation starts as a jigsaw and with every message you send a chunk is eliminated. There’s something about the mystery and the big expose that I just love about this – elementary but original.",
Clikd
",This is one of the more interesting apps I’ve come across as it seems to be more focused on quality than quantity. It gives users the chance to determine what’s significant to them in a date (or a mate) and then design their own personalized filtration to make sure they meet exactly the type of person they want to.",
Bumble
The limitless one
T his app is designed to help women take control of the online dating process by ensuring they make the very first stir before any conversation can take place. Bell sees it more from a man’s perspective, however. ",It’s Tinder without the swipe thresholds.",
Grindr
F ounded in 2009, Grindr is now the largest social networking app for gay, bisexual and queer fellows. While it is more than a dating app, with an emphasis on style, photography and social issues, at its core is the quest to help gay boys find love.
The best dating sites
It’s not all about apps. Here are some of the best dating sites on the ‘net.
eHarmony
The scientific one
W ith an emphasis on finding a long term playmate, eHarmony requires users to pack out a detailed questionnaire upon signing up which is then used to match you with someone deeply compatible.
Match.com
The original one
M atch.com is all about ‘loving your imperfections’ if you believe the ads. It’s at the pricey end (£29.99 a month, to be precise) but with a bold claim to have led to more dates, relationships and marriages than any other app or site, you might think it’s worth stumping up the dosh.
OkCupid
O kCupid is driven by a maths-based matching system that the creators of the site are fiercely proud of. Not everybody’s wooed that forty eight boffins crunching numbers in L.A can indeed lay claim to being modern day cupids but then, it’s free, so there’s no harm in finding out.
For more tips and advice on successful dating after 40, visit our Mature Dating section
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