I’ve been registered on free dating website OK Cupid for about three months and I’ve had success, as long as you gauge success as transferring online conversation into in-person dates.
I’ve found harshly 80 women from the Huntsville/Madison area which certainly presents a greater chance to mix than by barhopping three times a week. (Or more if your belly and more importantly, wallet can treat it.)
While the exposure and non-confrontational atmosphere provides a relaxed pursuit of romance, OK Cupid does have some major kinks it needs to fix.
Here are six things you should know before signing up:
When people scroll through your profile, they can “like” it similar to Facebook. You are then notified that you have been liked. However, you can’t see who liked you unless you upgrade to the “A-List” package which offers “advanced match search options, invisible browsing, message read receipts,” and more.
“A-List” costs $9.95 for one month, $7.95 a month for three months, or $Four.95 a month for half a year. Theoretically, you could end up paying about $30 just to see who likes you. That doesn’t assure they’ll reaction your message, much less go out with you.
For example, I have eight potential future ex-wives who liked me, but they’re hiding behind a pay wall which my ego won’t permit me to climb.
Two. Messaging may cost you extra.
You’re permitted to store 300 messages in your inbox. That includes messages that you’ve sent to prospects. When your inbox is total, obviously you need to delete messages to receive fresh ones.
If you find someone whose profile interests you, and you send them a message, there’s a chance their inbox is total and you can’t contact the female or boy of your desires because they’re too lazy for a little spring cleaning.
But don’t fret, Cupid will pull some strings and send your message as long as you bribe the site with $1. Assuming you’re a knightly man, you’re racking up fairly a few charges before even paying for the date.
This isn’t a problem if you’re adventurous like myself. But if you’re picky like my friend Arielle, this defeats the purpose of Cupid’s preferred matching service. When you’re specifying the search, you can limit the matches by whichever height, religion, education level, ethnicity, etc., you’re interested in. So if Arielle searches for strapping youthful youngsters Five’Ten and taller, she doesn’t want a boy standing Five’Four to reach out to her. It seems shallow, but the structure of the site encourages it to begin with.
Four. Cupid recently became Big Brother.
As a fresh feature on the site, Cupid highlights messages from people who it thinks you’ll like. This double-edge sword either gets your hopes up that it’s meant to be or suggests you’ll like someone downright out of your range. For example, Arielle, 22, received a highlighted message from a 46-year-old man named Mohammed. No matter how many Disney movies he can quote, he’ll never be her cup of tea.
Five. Previews lack enough view.
At the risk of sounding sexist, women are more prone to experiencing this issue. When you’re browsing on the Matches page, you can only see the username, age, city, percentage of common interests, and a single picture. In order to see more pictures, you have to click on the match which takes you to his or her profile. If you’re not attracted by the other pictures, it’s too late because now the person knows you visited the profile. You emerge interested and have become fair game for messaging. An effortless solution would be Cupid presenting several pictures as a preview, but its good-hearted intentions request people judge based on character rather than appearance.
6. Answers to match questions deemed irrelevant.
So OK Cupid has a never-ending cycle of questions which you’re supposed to reaction in order to refine its search for matches. I’ve been asked a diversity of questions such as “Would you go out with a smoker?,” “If one of your potential matches were overweight, would that be a dealbreaker?,” and “Are you attracted to dangerous situations?” They’re all ordinary yes or no situations, and then you tell Cupid which answers you’ll accept from other people.
However, some questions are sillier than others such as “How often do you meditate?” The choices are frequently, uncommonly, or never. I selected never and then when asked what answers I’ll accept, I selected “All of the above.”
Well, Cupid deems my response irrelevant because “you’ll accept any reaction.”
If anyone bases a potential relationship based on whether their playmate meditates, then maybe Cupid should aim that arrow a few inches above the heart.
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